I am a firm believer that your spouse does not intentionally try to hurt you. And when you are hurt, often times your spouse really doesn't know how to help comfort you.

Instead of having them spin their wheels, or increase your aggravation by their misdirected efforts, have a conversation this week on exactly what your spouse can do to help comfort you in times of hurt, pain, fear, or anxiousness…………….

Here is a question that can spark an interesting conversation. I would first say, be sure to pray and have an open posture before having this convo and hearing what your spouse says.

This is a moment for you to hear your spouse's perspective on how they see you, when it comes to your relationship with work. Use your active listening to show your spouse you hear them, and if you need to make any changes, do it for your relationship/marriage.

This we the theme has been family of origin. It is very important that you talk about this question with your significant other, fiancé, or spouse!

Ask your partner, how was affection shown in their family? Where family members encouraged to express their feelings and emotions openly? How was physical touch used?

With outside being opened, many people are feeling the pull to travel and get out of the house! It is important to spend some time away from the day-to-day routines and take a trip somewhere so that you can only focus on connecting with each other.

If you could go anywhere in the world with your partner, where would you go? Would it be somewhere warm, snowy, or beachy?

Note - Every Tuesday we will share with you some maintenance relationship check questions so that you can identify any early symptoms that may determine if a tune up is needed for your marriage

You always want to be a place where your spouse can share anything....big or small...with you, without judgment, or a fear that this level of vulnerability and transparency would be used against them later on.

In order to know where you're going, you need to identify those things that are keeping you from being your full self.

Think about this question, is there anything that is holding you back or keeping you from being everything God has for you? Is it fear? Is it uncertainty?

You can never affirm your spouse enough!

We often assume, but never really know, what it is that you do for your spouse that means the most to them.

Let's remove all of the assumptions and share exactly what it is that your husband/wife does for you, that you absolutely cannot live without.

It is these "things" that nourishes your relationship and strengthens your connection.

Maintain it and don't take it, or your spouse, for granted!

Note - Every Tuesday we will share with you some maintenance relationship check questions so that you can identify any early symptoms that may determine if a tune up is needed for your marriage.

Growing up we learned a lot of things from just watching the people around us. Our parents, aunts, uncles, other family members, and friends all contributed to our family of origins.

Depending on how we saw affection being given, in our childhoods, could hinder how we show affection to our spouses now. Did you see your parents kissing or holding hands? Did you see family or friends hugging or was PDA out of the question.

With today being an extra-special day, we want to spend time performing some introspection.

Think about this question, what makes you better better? Would you rather be agreed with or is being understood more important to you? There is a difference between the two and it is important to evaluate what drives your expectations based on your inner experiences.

Scheduling helps make sure that physical touch needs are being met, schedules are in sync, and both of you are on the same page.

But we also believe that you should romance your spouse throughout the day which feeds into the
anticipation of what is going to go down later that night!

Since we are in the month of love, we want to make sure that we are intentional on speaking our spouses' love languages this month!

For this week let's discuss a date that you loved the most! Explain to your husband/wife exactly which date was your favorite and what made it to be your top choice?

Let's spend this month filling up each other's love tanks instead of operating at a deficit!

Note - Every Tuesday we will share with you some maintenance relationship check questions so that you can identify any early symptoms that may determine if a tune up is needed for your marriage.

This week's question is to discuss what is stressing your spouse out currently. Give time for both of you all to share, but make sure that you are listening to each other speak and not preparing your own dialogue in your head.

Every Tuesday we will share with you some maintenance relationship check questions so that you can identify any early symptoms that may determine if a tune up is needed for your marriage.

This week's question is to discuss what things about the life, that you've created together, make you happy? Even though the purpose of marriage is not to be happy; you do not want to be in a miserable one.

Take time this week to talk about what you enjoy about your marriage and how often do you pay attention to what's going well in it.

This is a gratitude exercise!

Every Tuesday we will share with you some maintenance relationship check questions so that you can identify any early symptoms that may determine if a tune up is needed for your marriage.

This week's question is to discuss how well are you all listening to each other. Women are great at using all of the words to communicate, but how many are actually landing?

Take time this week to talk about how effectively you all are communicating with each other. What's preventing you from hearing each other well? Are there topics that either of you are hesitant to bring up and discuss?

There is no way that I would be able to wear all the hats that I do without the help of my husband. We are truly a team!

And when things become overwhelming where 1
person is carrying too much of the workload, then we have a chat where we talk about it all....housework, wrangling the kids, managing the finances, intimacy deficits, self-care timeouts, and more.

Take time to discuss what makes you a great team and then talk about how you can improve (because a team can always be better).