Everyone grows up with a certain level of adversity in their childhood and throughout their lives. Meaning there's a certain amount of emotional bacteria that you build up to help you navigate those life challenges.

So when you start having kids, you don't want them to experience the same level of problems and difficulties, so you create an environment for them that is sanitized. It keeps them away from the situations that you experienced while growing up, but that also means that they don't get to learn those same lessons. You run the risk of your kids not being prepared for heartbreak, defending themselves, etc.

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about this and how they plan to balance protecting their kids from certain life experiences vs. letting them grow from some hard knock life experiences.

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about the comparison trap and why it is so real especially in today's world! How often are you discouraged of doing something that you know you were called to do just because someone else is already doing it?

Have you ever purchased something or participated in a trend just because that was the "thing" to do?

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about the motivations to leave your marriage and how to combat those thoughts and actions.

Of course we are advocates of marriage, so of course we give tangible advice because no one should feel alone, hopeless, or helpless in a marriage! We live in a world that celebrates the hustle of trying to have it all, but doesn't necessarily support staying in marriages when things get rocky. It often promotes the opposite "you deserve better", "he doesn't know what know he has until it's gone", or "the grass is greener on the other side". But that is not true!

Marriage takes work and we can't put the work in everywhere except our marriages and expect it to be rainbows and roses.

Too many times we focus on what to say or do so that we can “win” the fight, but how does that benefit your relationship if your spouse feels neglected and minimized?

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about how to fight within your marriage and do it respectfully and without damaging the relationship. We all know that there will be disagreements in your relationship, but let's figure out how to handle them fairly!

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about the tools and resources they utilize to keep their marriage strong (and accountable) after 12.5 years.

Find out who is the serious one and who likes to keep it fun. The answer may surprise you!

The most common relationship advice you often get is "communication is key" and we definitely agree! But there are definitely levels to this thing!

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda breakdown the 5 levels of communication. This episode explains each level and how you can level up your communication in your relationship.

Also, excuse @sincerelyshunda's voice. Listen to the episode to find out what's going on with her.

This episode is our season finale as we take some time off to take care of our mental wellness. With the holidays fast approaching, expectations of family gatherings and social events with friends are right around the corner. For us, this time of year is bittersweet because we have lost parents, family members, and a best friend during this time of year, but we also have several milestones and anniversaries to celebrate too.

Jason and Ra’Shunda breakdown the similarities between relationships and diamonds and give you some advice to withstand the process. Everyone looks at a good sparkly diamond....on their hand, on a necklace, on a bracelet, and even in a grill😬! Diamonds are often given as a pledge of love and a symbol of commitment, but what really goes into the making of a diamond? And are you willing to put in that same level of work and effort to have a marriage that shines as bright as the diamonds in your wedding bands?

What typically draws a person to their partner is physical attraction. It could be their height, their eyes, their smile, etc. but at the end of the day physical attraction is temporary. Although this is important throughout your relationship, other character traits become more important as your relationship ages.

There are many things that couples can disagree on like money, sex, loyalty, chores, etc.  But at the end it all boils down to a lack of communication on whatever the subject is.  If there are unspoken expectations, it will set you up for conflict to occur between the two of you.

In this episode, we discuss some of the subjects that we struggled early on with (and some we are still working through).  We also address how we have been able to navigate some of these hot spots to maintain healthy communication even when we don't agree.

Welcome back to the Bside of Marriage family! 

Having hard conversations in your marriage is a necessity!  In today's episode we talk about how avoiding addressing difficult and/or uncomfortable subjects with your partner only leads to continued dissatisfaction and potential resentment.  Your relationship should be a safe space where no subject is off limits, especially if one person is feeling neglected or disrespected.

Have you ever had a bad day or just didn't feel like being in the relationship that you are in?  Those feelings are normal and they will past!  When you are married, you don't get to give up!  (Even though we have all had those moments!)

In this week's episode we discuss:

• How to identify when there is a problem

• Why sometimes you just don't have it to give in your partnership

• Practical tips on what to do when you are just not feeling it

Check it out and let us know what you think!

Have you thought that God stopped listening to your prayers and that your dreams would not come true?  Well, that is far from the truth!  Just because your dreams, or plans, are delayed doesn't mean that will be the case always!

The Adams are in an actual B-Side moment where we weren't able to record a new episode this week. We are throwing it back to an episode we recorded last season which what we are dealing with this week. In this week's rewind episode, we wrap up our 1st season of the B-Side of Marriage Podcast! Life pushed us to record an "after-dark" episode , but then a live B-Side moment occurs right in the middle of the episode. Watch how we handled it in real-time.

Welcome back to the Bside of Marriage Podcast where we discuss the good, the bad, the real of marriage - the A and the B-Side!

In this week's rewind episode, we are are throwing back to an episode we recorded last season that is still relevant today. We discuss the Twitter trend of red flags, breakdown the difference between red flags and non-negotiables, and knowing when you are being warned in a relationship vs when it is time to walk away .

Check out the episode and let us know what are the non-negotiables in your marriage!

Remember a couple of months ago we said we were going to couples' therapy?  Well, we did and this episode is all about giving you guys an update on how it went (or is still is) going!

This week we tackle:

• why therapy is so important to a relationship

• lessons we learned from therapy

• tips on what to look for in a therapist

Check it out and don't forget to rate and review the podcast!

This week's episode is sure to generate some conversation between you and your partner!  When folks talk about submission in marriage, it is normally directed at the wife and is taught that she should satisfy her husband's every need, while neglecting her own needs and wants.  This negative connotation prevents others from wanting to get married and has others believing that's what it takes for a marriage to last.

Hey B-Side family!  We are back at it with another hot episode this week!  Most people have their minds made up early in life, if they are going to get married or who they will marry, when, and what their wedding would look like.  But marriage goes beyond those factors!

Some people do not believe that marriage is for them while others  can tell, after first sight, if they see a future with someone.  In this week's episode, we discuss  why we got married and how we knew that each other was the "one".  It's not an episode to convince you either way, but hopefully we give you some additional perspective and things to consider before making that decision!

When you get married, you never think that having sex is going to be an issue!  You figure that you will always make time for each to connect, but then work obligations/concerns, kids, and conflicting schedules get in the way.  Before you know it, you have gone weeks without having sex!

In today's episode, we discuss:

• The conflicting messages given to soon-to-be wives and husbands

• Should obligation sex be a part of your marriage

• Different seasons in marriage

• How to keep things fresh in the bedroom

Hey B-Side family!  The Adams are going through another transition...and all BEFORE school starts with kids in two schools now.  We are are throwing back to an episode we recorded last season that is still relevant today. 

In this week's rewind episode, we talk about how to manage life transitions successfully as a couple, whether the changes are big (like a death in the family) or small (like your favorite snack being out of stock in-store and online).

Let us know in the comments below how you navigate transitions within your marriage!