You Can Fix Your Spouse's Flaws

No matter how much you encourage, nag, or even threaten your spouse, you CANNOT change them (or anyone else for that matter)! Whether it is a pet peeve or a major character flaw, you cannot fix their flaws for them. We were not blessed with that superpower!

But here's what you can do....work on yourself by trying the following:

1. Change your perspective - Instead of focusing on the negative aspect, find the positive in the situation and appreciate and celebrate that.

2. Share your heart - Tell your spouse the "why" behind you wanting that behavior to change. You still won't be able to change them, but the majority of the time, people who love you, do not want to hurt you intentionally. So if they understand why you are pushing for this change, they are more likely to make a shift on their own.

3. Focus on making yourself better - Take the issue to your heavenly father, pray about it, and get a
book/podcast/class recommendation to improve yourself. The better of a person you become, the
better your relationship will be.

Don't believe me? Story time!!!!

I'm an advent podcast listener and I listen to a variety of shows. I would find episodes about marriage, time management, parenting, etc. that my husband would never listen to because he was not the in that show's target audience or he was just not into what I would be into.

What I started doing was sharing specific episodes with him to listen to as well. We would then discuss
the episodes together during our relationship check-ins. Not only was I learning better ways for me to navigate in the world, I was also improving our communication on topics that could get a little tricky to discuss (if at the wrong time or mood).

Has anyone tried any of these approaches? If so, share your thoughts below in the comments or join our FB community where we will continue this conversation as well!

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