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Goals for Your Marriage
How Can You Change Your Marriage
Current Level of Satisfaction
Select the radio button to indicate your level of satisfaction, with 0 meaning no satisfaction, 5 average and 10 super, fantastic, the best. Use the text below each question to indicate what you think your spouse’s level of satisfaction is at the present time.
1. Our daily personal involvement with each other: *
2. Our affectionate, romantic interaction: *
3. Our sexual relationship *
4. The frequency of our sexual contact: *
5. My trust in my spouse" *
6. My spouse’s trust in me: *
7. The depth of our communication together: *
8. How well we speak one another’s love language: *
9. How we divide chores: *
10. The way we make decisions: *
11. How we manage conflict: *
12. Adjustment to one another’s differences *
13. Amount of free time spent together: *
14. Quality of free time spent together *
15. Amount of free time spent apart: *
16. Our interaction with friends as a couple: *
17. The way we support each other in rough times: *
18. How we support each other’s careers *
19. Our spiritual interaction *
20. Our church involvement *
21. The level of our financial security *
22. How we manage money *
23. My spouse’s relationship with my relatives *
24. My relationship with my spouse’s relatives *
Scoring Key
To determine your score, add the numbers you selected for each statement. The sum reflects your score. 192-240 Your relationship is doing very well. 144-191 Your relationship has some major strengths. 121-143 You have strengths and weaknesses. Any satisfaction under six would benefit from some work. 73-120 Definite improvement needed. 72 and lower Major assistance is needed as soon as possible
Current Level of Communication
Select between 1 to 5 to indicate your current level of communication, with 1 = almost never 2 = rarely 3 = sometimes 4 = often 5 = almost always.
1. Listens when the other person is talking *
2. Appears to understand spouse when he/she shares *
3. Tends to amplify and say too much *
4. Tends to condense and say too little *
5. Tends to keep feelings to oneself *
6. Tends to be critical or nag *
7. Encourages spouse *
8. Tends to withdraw when confronted *
9. Holds in hurts and becomes resentful *
10. Lets spouse have say without interrupting *
11. Remains silent for long periods of time when the other is angry *
12. Fears expressing disagreement if the other becomes angry *
13. Expresses appreciation for what is done most of the time *
14. Complains that the other person doesn’t understand him or her *
15. Can disagree without losing his or her temper *
16. Tends to monopolize the conversation *
17. Feels free to discuss sex openly with spouse *
18. Gives compliments and says nice comments to spouse *
19. Feels misunderstood by spouse *
20. Tends to avoid discussions of feelings *
21. Avoids discussing topics or issues that are problems *
Scoring Key
Statements 1, 2, 7, 10, 13, 15, 17 and 18 To determine your score, add the numbers you made an X through for each of these eight statements. The sum reflects your score. To determine your spouse’s score, add the numbers you circled for each of these eight statements. The sum reflects your spouse’s score. 33-40 You’re doing very well. 25-32 You’re doing well. 17-24 Some areas need improvement. 9-16 Definite improvement needed. 0-8 The relationship needs major assistance. Statements 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 9, 11, 12, 14, 16, 19, 20 and 21 To determine your score, add the numbers you made an X through for each of these 13 statements. The sum reflects your score. To determine your spouse’s score, add the numbers you circled for each of these 13 statements. The sum reflects your spouse’s score. 53-65 The relationship needs major assistance. 40-52 Definite improvement needed. 27-39 Some areas need improvement. 14-26 You’re doing well. 8-13 You’re doing very well.
Your Spiritual Relationship
2. Do you have a personal faith in Jesus Christ? *
3. How frequently do you pray by yourself? *
4. How frequently do you read Scripture by yourself? *
5. How frequently do you and your spouse pray together? *
6. How frequently do you and your spouse read Scripture or some devotional material together? *
7. How important are questions 5 and 6 to you in your marriage? *
0= Not important 5=Important 10=Very important

Thank you for completing your assessment. You will receive a pdf in the email you provided with all your answers to discuss with your spouse.

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