To be equal would mean that you and your spouse are the exact same person, and that is
just not the case. God made you different for a reason!

In our marriages, we need to strive toward equality and an equal partnership; where we focus on working as a
team, sharing the workload, and expressing our gratitude for what each spouse brings to the
relationship and household.

The fact is we do argue, but in our household we call it an "intense time of fellowship".

Having a difference of opinion is ok because we are two individuals with our own perspectives and
opinions. When you get married that does not mean that you now think the same and see everything the
same way.

No matter how much you encourage, nag, or even threaten your spouse, you CANNOT change them (or anyone else for that matter)! Whether it is a pet peeve or a major character flaw, you cannot fix their flaws for them. We were not blessed with that superpower!

Sex is so critical in a marriage. It's more than just the physical act, but it's an outward display of an intimate connection!

God is the creator of sex and he made it so that it's enjoyable within the confines of a marriage. Per the book of the Song of Solomon....who said that sex has to be boring?!?!?!

Get creative with your spouse (as long as both parties are in agreement) and have some fun! Your connection shouldn't be boring or mundane! I mean, we got 3 kids so 🤷🏾‍♀️

The great thing about your kids is: you raise them, they grow up, and then they LEAVE! And if you have not nourished your relationship with your spouse during those child rearing years, you have a higher likelihood of divorcing.

Our philosophy for our marriage is that God needs to come first, then your spouse, and then dem kids. Your marriage should be a model for your kids on how to prioritize and nurture relationships.

So don't sacrifice your lifelong partnership and helpmate for kids, who will create their own separate lives, and then stick you in senior living

In the first years, you are laying the foundation of what your marriage will be built on; which takes a lot of work and energy. In later years, you will go through different trials, but since you have a solid foundation, there are no worries about your house (marriage) falling down.

Confidence is built through adversity and perseverance.

Happiness is a feeling that is fleeting and there is no way that 2 different people with different backgrounds can come together and make each other happy all the time, every day.

Happiness is a personal choice and you cannot rely on a person or situation to fulfill that emotion for you.

Marriage is beautiful, blessed, and sacred; a representation of God and his bride the church, but it will require work. Will you have happy moments and memories? Of course! But it won't always be that way, so choose today to be in it even when you do not "feel" happy.

Introducing our #MarriageMythbusterMondays, where we will debunk some myths people have when it comes to marriage. The first one up (and one of my biggest pet peeves) is - You Complete Me! This is awesome for the movies, especially any 90’s drama, but this will not help you find your perfect mate and help you show up strong in your marriage!