The BSide Of Marriage Podcast

This week's episode to talk about what fatherhood means to Jason and how it has impacts marriage.

We both have lost our fathers and know that it is because of those great men that have helped us become the people and have the marriage that we do have.

We have a great episode for you all this week…no seriously!  Who knew that picking granite would create such drama 😲😲!  We dive into the importance of conflict resolution and how the little things do matter.

One thing that we can count on is that change is inevitable!  But just because we know that, doesn't make it easier to accept or live through.  When you get married (or enter into a committed relationship with someone), that is only one version of that person and people will evolve over time.  As a person changes, so should your relationship, and that isn't always for the better! 

In relationships, there is often each partner's side of the story and then the truth.  Why do we say that?  It's because each person experiences the same event or situation, through their own perspective.  This includes how actions are interpreted, any biases that are internalized, and any traumas that may be triggered during each interaction!  That is why the truth lies in-between the two experiences and the facts of the situation.

Mother's Day is right around the corner and we thought that it made sense for us to discuss our parenthood journey and how it has impacted our relationship!

Who knew that friendships as an adult with be just as complicated, if not more, than our friendships in your teenage years? Not only is it difficult to make friends if you are a transplant in your area, have kids, don't have kids, are an extrovert, an introvert, etc. Basically, it is hard to make, and sustain friendships as an adult.

Many people are looking for love, but do not understand how being in a dedicated, healthy relationship is actually a mirror of you, your attitudes, and behaviors.  Attempting to circumvent the process sometimes only makes things worse instead of satisfying the need for instant gratification!

Have you ever tried to connect with your significant other and felt like they were just not getting it?  Or did you hesitate to express your needs because of the possibility of rejection?  Sometimes do you wish you can just get rid of the guesswork when trying to connect?

In this episode, we breakdown:

✨ The purpose of premarital counseling

✨ What to look for in a marriage/relationship coach

✨ Why we may not be the relationship/marriage coaches for you

✨ Common misconceptions of what marriage/relationship coaching is and much, much more!

We felt that we needed to hop in your feed with a bonus episode, before we kick off season 4, to talk about love and Valentine's Day! We promise you that this is one you don't want to miss!

This episode is our season finale for season 3.  With everything going on in our life, we needed to take some time to get away with each other, to regroup, reflect, plan and set tangible goals for 2024 .

In this episode, we discuss:

✨ Consistently Prioritizing US this year

✨ How transitions felt different this year

✨ Understanding how roles can swap

✨ Celebrating 15 years of marriage

and much, much more!

Thank you for riding with us for 3 seasons. We have so many new things in store for the new year and can't wait to get started planning  and recording for season 4.

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason & Ra’Shunda tackle the myth that having children can save a relationship.  Unfortunately, that is not the case!  Having kids bring its own set of challenges! 

In this episode, we discuss: what is gentle parenting and how it's going in the Adams household, the impact children have on a relationship and how to stay connected during the different phases of parenting.

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about what we wish someone would have told us about marriage prior to us getting married. We received some good words of wisdom as well as had to learn some lessons the hard way.

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about how avoiding addressing difficult and/or uncomfortable subjects with your partner only leads to continued dissatisfaction and potential resentment. Your relationship should be a safe space where no subject is off limits, especially if one person is feeling neglected or disrespected. Having hard conversations in your marriage is a necessity!

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about what typically draws a person to their partner is physical attraction.  It could be their height, their eyes, their smile, etc. but at the end of the day physical attraction is temporary.  Although this is important throughout your relationship, other character traits become more important as your relationship ages.

Do you feel like your relationship brings out the best in you?  A healthy relationship with a person who complements you, helps you become a better person and maximizes your differences, but what if the relationship is one-sided and all about what you can get out of it? Sometimes people enter into a relationship because of convenience, but does that make the relationship sustainable?

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about some of the subjects that we struggled early on with (and some we are still working through). We also address how we have been able to navigate some of these hot spots to maintain healthy communication even when we don't agree.

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about couples therapy. We tackle why therapy is so important to a relationship, lessons we learned, and tips on what to look for in a therapist.

We feel like this week’s topic is a part of an on-going dating debate…should a person date someone who checks all of the boxes on your "ideal partner" checklist or should you "settle"?

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about Submission. We address:

- the real definition of submission

- the difference between submission and a submissive spouse

- why submission is important in marriage

✨ We made it fam!!! ✨  Millions didn't make, but we were one of the ones who did...IYKYK ;)

Join in as we celebrate 100 episodes of the B-side of Marriage podcast!

The robots are taking over! From artificial intelligence invading our homes, our cars, and now our tv shows and movies.  Could relationships and marriages be next?!?!?  This week we talk ABOUT IT and take a walk into an alternate reality (well it's an alternate for now, but for how long).

Every healthy relationship is built on a bedrock of mutual understanding and emotional support, but commonly, we either do not do a good job in asking for support or explaining what that support should look like.  Also, do you consider yourself to be a supportive partner?

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda talk about the conflicting messages given to soon-to-be wives and husbands, we ask the question: should obligation sex be a part of your marriage?, we talk about the different seasons in marriage and how to keep things fresh in the bedroom

Did you guys have a conversation before you got married about what y'all were going to do about your last names?  Or was the expectation that the wife would change hers?

Have you heard, "What gets you into a marriage doesn't always keep you there?"  Well, this is a common sentiment, more than you know!

In this episode, we discuss:

✨ Understanding each other's family of origin story (as it relates to money)

✨ How and who should manage your finances

✨ What is a spending threshold

✨ How money assumptions impacts the rest of your relationship

✨ And much, much more!

On this week of the B-Side of Marriage podcast rewind episode , Jason and Ra’Shunda ask the questions: Have you ever thought about putting a contract in place within your relationship? Would it help make sure that the household responsibilities are divided and make sure that your love tank never goes empty? Or will it increase judgment and create additional nagging?

This week we discuss both the pros and the cons. Listen in to hear our opinions and where we end up on the matter! Don't forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast too! We would greatly appreciate it!

No one likes to feel taken advantage of, especially in a relationship.  This is why it is important to show appreciation for everything that each person brings into the marriage...because it is a partnership!

In this week’s episode, we discuss:

✨ God given roles for the husband and wife

✨ The difference in roles vs. responsibilities

✨ The importance of mutual respect & appreciation of each partner's contribution to the relationship

✨ And much more!